Trauma, Shame and Standing Up for Yourself
Episode 14: Kristen Boice on Navigating Boundaries
How do you feel when you’ve held true to your boundaries? Or when you’ve let one slip? If you’ve never stopped to think about it, listen to this episode of Awaken Your Wise Woman. Host Elizabeth Cush welcomes Kristen Boice for a conversation about navigating and negotiating boundaries.
“My energy is my number one sign that the boundaries are off. I’m not holding the boundary for myself or somebody else. It’s my tell. ”
Show Notes:
Maybe you’ve been trying to set and hold boundaries but find yourself slipping. Or maybe you thought you set a boundary, but you didn’t get the outcome you expected. The path to better boundaries takes twists and turns, and sometimes you might find yourself doubling back. Don’t get discouraged—you’re not alone. Holding boundaries can be tough—even for therapists. In this episode of the Awaken Your Wise Woman (previously Woman Worriers) podcast, host Elizabeth Cush, LCPC, a licensed professional therapist, founder of Progression Counseling in Annapolis, Md., and a women’s life coach, welcomes Kristen Boice, LMFT, owner of Pathways to Healing Counseling and host of the Close the Chapter podcast, for an engaging and insightful conversation about why boundaries can be so hard to hold, how they can shift our energy and how they can support not only us but also our relationships and the others in them.
Listen and learn:
How family systems shaped our ability to identify and hold our boundaries—or not
Why we should expect boundary issues to keep coming up, even after we’ve been in therapy
What our energy level tells us about our boundaries—and what to do with the information
How guilt, shame and fear can keep us from holding healthy boundaries
How setting a boundary can be an act of compassion toward the other person
Why the word “but” can be sabotage our boundaries, and what we should say instead
What we need to understand about boundary setting, expectations and outcomes
The difference between setting a boundary and sharing a boundary
The best first steps to take on the journey of recognizing a need and communicating it—and where to get a free journal to help you on the path
Learn more:
Kristen Boice’s website
Pathways to Healing Counseling website
Kristen Boice, LMFT/Therapist on Instagram
Kristen D. Boice, LMFT on Facebook
Kristen Boice on Twitter
Kristen D Boice on Pinterest
Guided meditations from Progression Counseling
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