Openness and Connection

photo courtesy of unsplash— @10bitsstudio

This was originally shared in my newsletter.

I’ve noticed over the last few years it’s been easier and feels safe to be open and vulnerable in ways that build connection.

There was a time when I shared too much without much filter to try to connect. Or I put up my invisible wall to protect myself, and I felt disconnected. It was very hard for me to be open and vulnerable from my heart with those who could receive it. And sharing relevant pieces of my life and my experiences with people I didn’t know? No way. Parts of me felt embarrassed, ashamed, and worried I’d be judged.

But when we share from our heart space—that caring kind compassionate place—we’re usually met with that same energy from others. That is how we create connection. And that’s a beautiful thing.

It took me a long time to recognize that! And I can see now it’s because I didn’t fully love and trust myself. As a highly sensitive person I wanted to create connections, but I wasn’t sure how to do that from my heart.

If you’re highly sensitive, you have the innate gift of making deep connection with others. But if your sensitivity wasn’t fully understood by the people who raised you, you might have had to bury that gift under silence or other protective measures.

But as you get to know your parts better and can hear their fears with care and compassion, it gets easier to share personal stories from your heart and the safety you build with your Self. Because then you can relay their stories with compassion, care, and kindness.

If you’d like to explore what keeps you from feeling seen and heard and you want to develop deep connections with yourself and others reach out for a free 45-minute discovery call.