Trusting Your Self

Trusting Your Self

I think women in particular struggle with this more than most men for lots of reasons. I think men from an early age are almost encouraged to set boundaries, where women are encouraged to be people pleasers— kind, willing to compromise, saying “no” nicely. And when you’re taught to be a people pleaser, always taking care of other’s needs, it’s hard to be true to yourself.

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Moving Through Self-Doubt, Imposter Syndrome and Shame

Moving Through Self-Doubt, Imposter Syndrome and Shame

I like to imagine the Imposter like the Wizard in the Wizard of Oz. When Toto pulls back the curtain and he’s frantically pushing buttons for the sound, smoke and light effects, and he says, “Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!”

Just like the Wizard, the Imposter makes you feel like you need to make a dazzling light show or a smoke screen to distract everyone’s attention away from you, because although you might look like you have it altogether, you really are a poser and at any moment everyone will find out.  

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The Hidden Magic of Halloween

The Hidden Magic of Halloween

Halloween is fast approaching! For me, Halloween has always been a sign of fall, cooler weather, and the beginning of the holiday season.

Dressing up, wearing costumes, play acting, and improvising give us a chance to try on and inhabit the different parts of ourselves that we might feel uncomfortable exploring in our everyday life.

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Sea Changes: Learning to Go with the Flow

Sea Changes: Learning to Go with the Flow

Change is hard, especially when it’s abrupt. And change is also beautiful. It allows us to grow, to step beyond our comfort zone and move in new directions.

I recently watched a program about music in the year 1971. The episode focused on Carole King. The narrator described her as the “sea change” for female singer/songwriters. The show noted that King opened up space for more women to be recognized, to step into their power and reach a place on the Billboard Top 40 charts.

King’s decision not just to sell her music for others to perform, but to showcase herself along with her songs, must have been hard in such a male-dominated field. I imagine it took a lot of courage.

That phrase, “sea change” stuck with me.

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